Have you ever said yes to something when you really wanted to say no? Or just sat and stayed quiet when someone said something that you knew was incorrect but you just felt like it wasn’t worth the confrontation to say something?
Our friends at Merriam-Webster define a people pleaser as “a person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of their own needs or desires.”
The truth is a lot of women or AFAB folks have been conditioned to people please in our society and this has negative impacts on our mental health, health, and even birthing experience.
Today, we're on an exhilarating ride through the realms of personal agency, self-discovery, and strategies to reclaim your voice during the miraculous journey of childbirth.
In this episode, we dive into the following:
Signs you might be a people-pleasing
How people-pleasing can impact your pregnancy and birth experience
10 steps to live a more autonomous life by breaking the people-pleasing cycle
How activating your voice will enhance your birth experience
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Welcome back to another episode of The Mindful Womb Podcast! Today, we're on an exhilarating ride through the realms of personal agency, self-discovery, and strategies to reclaim your voice during the miraculous journey of childbirth. Imagine this as your personalized manual, a guide penned by someone who has navigated the intricate dance of birthing decisions – that someone is you!
Breaking Free from the People-Pleasing Web
Ever found yourself caught in the web of people-pleasing during your pregnancy journey? It's a common thread, and trust me, you're not alone. As we untangle this intricate web, let's dive deep into the core of the matter. Picture this: a space where the answers aren't sought externally but resonate from within. Let’s start shedding the layers of external influences and embracing the true wisdom that lies within us. Let’s move away from people pleasing and into a space where decisions feel like a HELL YES!
The Birth Workers' Philosophy and Your Authentic Voice
Now, let's address the elephant in the room – we may find ourselves hearing perspectives and philosophies imposed by medical providers or even birth workers. Many practitioners have a bias, a predefined way of approaching childbirth. But here's the key revelation – your voice is the protagonist of this narrative. In this segment, we'll liberate ourselves from the undue pressure, preconceived notions, and rediscover the beauty of your own agency to figure out what path feels best for us.
Unveiling Strategies for Unshakable Empowerment
Hold onto your hats because this is where the real magic unfolds – a toolkit of strategies for unwavering empowerment. Imagine this toolkit as your trusty companion, supporting you through the highs and lows of decision-making. We'll kick off with the realization that you hold the power of choice, with every decision revolving around what feels right for you.
Next, we'll explore the art of setting boundaries, and creating a safe haven for yourself amidst the chaos. Positive self-talk becomes your daily mantra, a personal pep talk to keep you grounded and focused on your unique journey. Picture this – delaying your answer, a powerful tactic allowing you the gift of time in decision-making. It's like pressing pause in a world demanding immediate responses.
But saying no with conviction? Now, that's an art form. No more wishy-washy responses; it's time to own your decisions. Role-playing enters the scene not just for the theatre but as your secret weapon. Practice with friends and family to prepare for the grand performance – your birthing experience.
Oh, and a golden rule – try not to drown people in excuses. "No" is a complete sentence, and you owe no one an explanation for your decisions. As you master these strategies, remember to celebrate your victories. Each step forward is a win, a testament to your growing empowerment.
Connecting the Dots: The Birth Empowerment Manifesto
Let's weave it all together. This journey transcends the birthing room; it's a life manual, guiding you toward empowerment in every decision you make. These strategies are not just tools for childbirth; they're life skills, transforming you into a decision-making powerhouse.
Your Call to Empowerment
So, here's the scoop – embark on this adventure with me, your guide through the transformative landscape of childbirth empowerment. Your journey is a testament to your strength, wisdom, and the unbridled power that resides within you. Own your narrative, celebrate your victories, and may your birthing experience be an ode to the remarkable force that is you.
Ready to embark on this journey? I can't wait to see you own your narrative in the next episode. Until then, revel in the extraordinary power within you. Your voice is your superpower, embrace it!
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